First person vs Third person

Indian movies tend to always describe the hero as “I never get defeated” kind of a guy. “Bole toh apun toh galat ho hi nahi sakta, samne wale ki hi galati!” And the “saamne wala”, the villain, has to pay for his sins.

But does the same ideology apply to the life? Are we all the heroes and heroines of our respective lives in almost all the situations? Think about it….

We are taught to feel like the Dabangg heroes of our own lives and so, we lead it that way. In a way or so, we actually are, when it comes to working hard and achieving success. 

But what happens to us when we argue with others, is not desirable in a hero. We always see what we want to see but never prefer to see what’s right. Point of views may differ, but there are situations where we refuse to accept the justified and righteous thing. 

It is because we are the heroes and we are always right. That “heroic” sense is the first person. We perform actions and judge them in the first person. We miss out at the real definition of a “hero” But is it right? Ask me and I’ll say,” Not always, dear!”

SOLUTION:

Whenever arguing with someone or while pondering upon some important confusion in life, think of yourself as a third person, for a while. As if, your mind and soul resides in some other unbiased body, which is simply witnessing your life and is well aware of the concerned events. That state of mind results in one of the best decisions of life! 

People have forgotten to put their feet in the others’ shoes! They have forgotten to question themselves as follows:

  • What if the other person is right?
  • What if it’s my mistake? 
  • If it is, why am I afraid to accept it?
  • And if it’s not, how can I calm the other person down and make him realize the same?
  • What’s stopping me from being fair?

You got me right, QUESTION YOURSELF BEFORE QUESTIONING OTHERS! 

Hence, thinking as a third person makes you realize your mistakes and helps you in analysing your actions. Applying the analysis of “Third person view” (just like a third empire in cricket) into the first person character is the key to solving many of life’s problems.

The above image says it all..

Keeping calm and a thoughtful mind are not the signs of weakness, but that of wisdom. They’re a boon that allow you to analyse yourself, before you could act. That avoids mistakes in life and helps you in building a bold and regret-free character. 

Keys:

  • Prefer third person view over first and apply the conclusions on first person.
  • Questioning yourself for the sake of analysis is very, very important.
  • Keep your calm, for it lets you think!

Being a hero implies to analysing your mistakes and looking forward in mutual development in life. You don’t always have to prove the other person wrong, but believe in the unbiased right decisions. 

Strength lies in avoiding your mistakes in the first place and accepting and correcting them in the second. And not in loosing your temperament.

Mind of a Third person and implementation in the first person always win…

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10 thoughts on “First person vs Third person”

  1. The thought and idea of considering a third person’s point of view is undoubtedly a better solution to most of the problems. However, if the world is considered to be unbounded by karma’s web than don’t you think this fashion of thinking will outlaw the originality of first person’s thought. Well to simply put this, I want to say if the problem is psychological not practical, unlike the example you presented, than no parameter can decide what is universally wrong and right, as each identity has it’s own set of believes so what is wrong for someone can be pitch perfect for other. And in such scenario, your statement will eventually kill the first person’s reasoning ability and will lose its original thoughts.

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    1. I’ll say just one thing…

      What YOU perceive n interpret isn’t always REALITY n TRUTH. Just because someone BELIEVES to be right doesn’t necessarily make it right absolutely.
      Right n wrong can be relative n situational but truth is absolute

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    2. You are right. But I’m talking about the universally approved conditions. People are unable to agree even on those things, that are justified and hence, meant to be agreed upon. They waste their energy and time in arguing for vain things.
      Of course there are certain exceptional situations where what’s right for one, might not be right for the other.. But consider this.
      A person has a passion towards killing people and he’s a terrorist. According to him, he’s doing a right job! But is it legit? Is killing anyone right? It might be for the terrorist himself but not for the entire human race! Think..

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