The Touch

How often is it that you feel like you’ve started losing your own touch?

I’m nearing the completion of my graduation. Distant friends will be biding adieu with a phrase, “Stay in touch!!” But how often is it, that we analyse the touch of ourselves?

Exactly.. We barely remember. Think about it..

We come across situations, people, drastic changes against the routine, rush, chaos, deceptions, integrity and what not! But we’re seldom able to justify our fight or fright reactions..

And those were just the strings from the external environment trying to pull us apart.. What about the inner self? We face anger, restlessness, anxiety, sudden urges, jealousy, lust, pain, arrogance, etc.. But seldom are we able to feel the real connect between these emotions and ourselves..

Exactly, the Touch!

Self awareness is a must! One must know what makes them feel low, catastrophic at times or simply affected by all those factors enlisted above.

Being able to connect to the self is either a gift, or an achievement as a result of a lottt of practise.. An awful lot..

The emptiness that a person feels despite of a whole crowd surrounding one, isn’t always meant to be because of the absence of their loved one(s). It could be because we forget the most important character of our own stories.. And that’s ourselves..

Before enjoying the company that surrounds us externally, enjoying our own company is a must.. Because as a matter of fact,

we won’t be able to enjoy the external company as much as possible if we aren’t in touch of ourselves..

But the good news is, it isn’t as hard as it sounds like.

You just have to be an observer.

Yes, I said it, as simply as possible.

But, mind you, that takes patience for a cost.. As I’ve mentioned it earlier too, being an observer to your own scenery solves a tonne of problems in life.. And this one, one of the most important requirements for one’s individuality, is surely going to help again..

And once you observe yourself, try to add to your actions.. Like, as a result of your analysis, you would be clearer to see through your actions and mistakes.. Hence, correct them.

Observe the behavioral patterns that lead you to that unnecessary emotion.

And you wouldn’t even realise when and how you curbed the incoherence out..

You must have seen in many interviews of the world leaders or successful people, that they spend some part of the day all alone..

That too mostly in the morning, with themselves, planning the rest of the day’s schedule and/or just being with themselves, away from the chaos of the world, the worries, the emotions, the responsibilities..

‘Cause this empowers them through all individual aspect, in order to get in Touch with themselves and make the most out of their day..

There you have it.

Stay in touch with yourself, for that’s going to lead you to the real You, and hence, the world you long for..

You have Yourself!!

It’s astonishing to me how we choose to stick to a thought.. I mean, we ourselves are the ones to stick to a thought, hold firm to it and then act helpless?

Ever thought of it?

Yes, we choose to get hurt by a thought and stick to it knowingly. It does sound too stupid and constructive in its own way, but it’s a fact!

We have the control of our own mind. And yet, we act like we are unable to manage the entry and exit timings of a thought in and out of it! It’s so strange at times that I’ve myself failed uncountably to justify it..

Of course, we are not Gods.. Of course, it does require practice.. But give it a second. Suppose you have a house or some property, with all the legal proofs to prove your belongingness to it. And then, suddenly, an intruder tries to break in to mess around and just do what he’s totally not supposed to do!

What are you going to do?

Well, it depends.. If you are strong enough and at par with that intruder’s potential, you’ll take on him by yourself and drag him out of your property.

Or, you call for the cops or your friends or neighbours to help you out in taking the mess out of your property!!

Same is with your mind..

This is UTTERLY important to remember that our mind is our own property and is highly customisable and manipulatable by ourselves!! Trust me, it helps one to fix things by Bounds!

Now how is it the same? Your mind is your property, the intruder is the thought messing up with your life and hence, your friends and neighbours, you ask? Well, that is totally dependable..

Mostly, beefing up your own potential to deal with your own problems is highly advisable, through meditation and certain everyday practices to make you stronger and independent..

Else, those friends and neighbours could be your hobbies, work, important people in your life or anything that helps in bringing out your own element up top. I know, diversions have never been the solutions, as they tend to take you away from the problems and not solve them; but in certain situations, it comes down to making yourself massive enough in front of the problem or gather the confidence to deal with it.

There will be plenty more that will make you feel empty or consumed from within.. In such cases, enriching yourself with your own element is what helps the most.. Practicing the stuff that actually defines you, your interests and justifies your existence is what fills that void.. That’s what energizes you to look at the problem again and think, “Am I actually getting affected by this or is it temporary and meant to go away? Coz this isn’t the only thing that defines me.. There’s way more yet to come up!!”

Which again brings me to another friend of ours.. Time. It heals everything, happenings fill the voids too and hence, we recover.. But it requires a partner named Patience to work well with..

In the end, it all comes down to just You who needs to remind yourself how dynamic life is.. One has to become a friend to oneself, reminding oneself of all the things that I’ve enlisted above.. For, we are lucky enough to be blessed with friends and family, but that trigger always lies in our hands to pacify things up or let ourselves suffer for no good reason..

It all lies in your hands, never stop, never give up.. Value whom you possess instead of longing for whom you don’t..

Painful Success

Yes, pain for today. This one revolves around its relationship with success. It’s like an opaque object and its shadow. Can you define one moment of success without paying its much needed price in terms of pain?

Think about it…

Everything’s got a price. Everything’s got some threshold of your efforts to be reached in the first place for it to become a part of your reality. Nothing comes for free; except for advices. And some thoughts that act to be the ladder to success (mind you, not an escape from the pain)

For the pain is inevitable on the course to success. There are plenty of ways that mother nature conveys the same..

Diamonds? These are coal particles pressurised sooo frickin bad to attain their majestic and lustrous virtues… Butterfly? How a caterpillar undergoes the hardships of being a cacoon before transforming itself into a Glittery, Boundless Butterfly…

Endless examples there lie to take inspiration from. And all these show the indespensible relationship between Success and Pain or Struggle, to name it..
And do you think success will at all be legit without any attrocities faced on its way? Will the success be able to hold its tag without the pain?

I don’t think so.. For, if pain didn’t exist, success had hardly held any value… It’s like how you define a good thing till you don’t know the bad one… Two sides of the coin have to exist to choose one.

Pain or Struggle is the value of Success…
Just like any other thing in the world. The price tag of your goal or your dreams holds the honesty you put into your efforts for the same.

Which itself defines how to endure a failure… As simple as that, when would it be that you are unable to buy a commodity? When you are short of its price.. Same is the case of success…

No matter how hard you try, no matter how much of your work you’ve put into it; if it’s not becoming a part of your reality, it means that some more price of it is still balance. Some more efforts are yet to be put in. Some more pressure is yet to be experienced for the diamond to become a diamond and shine undoubtedly.

Failures are an indication saying, “You are yet to become worth the success. Strive harder to prove your worth.”

Till the time you remember the above word, you are sure to endure failures in the much needed manner and do what the situation actually demands..

Any shortcuts?
You can steal a commodity, but you can never run away with it, too far, too long. One or the other day, you’re sure to pay the credit in one or the other form. Be it in the form of excruciating penalties of regrets or the efforts that bear the desired fruit.
Rest, you be the judge. For, struggle is the only tool that paves your way to the goal. Else, calling a goal as yours would be an insult not only to the goal but to the self too…

The Clinging Business.

The word clinging could have been replaced by longing, wishing, wanting being tenacious for or many other.. But it best fits when it comes to “clinging” onto something precious, someone adorable or anything that has ever had your love..

You cling onto something only when you wish to give all of yourself to it or that soul. You just always want to see it in its best possible state, no matter what. Hence, you choose to be selfless in every possible regard. Neither do you want to give that person any moment to complain, nor do you wish to ever part ways..

Selflessness is an important factor. Till the time it is there, the purity and truthfulness of the feelings remain intact. The moment you loose hold of it, you fall into deep dilemmas, followed by fathomless oceans of doubts..

Though there could be anything that flickers your selflessness, but what’s the most common one? If you ask me, I’ll say, “disappointment”

When you put much of yourself to see something or someone in one’s best state and you get paid off with led downs in return, it really makes you wonder if at all your priceless investments of love and time were legit at their places.. You really need a Golden Heart and stick to your essence to keep things alive. When your value is returned with Carelessness, Ruthlessness and Stubborn reactions, would you still stick to your selflessness?

It’s quite a big deal to count on someone to share most of your bits, most of your emotions and live the relation with much trust and content. But what if you get dismay in return? Wouldn’t you feel shattered from within??
Please comment below what your take would be in such a scenario..

That’s where you are forced to think of this “love” as a “clinging business”

Think about it..

If you get what you give, you are happy. But if you don’t, you get affected. This “affect” is a proof of love though. Though, you would never be able to be the best judge, what works the best for you.

Either you cling onto someone and “expect” for the same respect in return. Or you are like “If you love a flower, you don’t pluck it, you water it.”

Which again forces you to think, if you get affected, what good does Unconditionality of Love hold then? What about the selflessness that stands stiff to be the foundation of everything?? (I talk of selflessness so much as it’s one of the best feelings a human is capable of feeling and living up to!!)

That’s why I said, you do need a Golden heart to bear it all and make it till the end.

What I insist is, selflessness is what holds good at the end. Being cut off from expectations is what keeps you from disappointments and heart breaks. Just do your part in the best possible manner and be an observer of what the other person and life has on offer. And reflect it similarly in your actions the next time...

Else, every honest soul will be a sufferer at the end of the day. Every truthful dove would be caged by disappointment, being kept away from the skies of a regret-free business..

For, if at all the business is for real and meant to last, you won’t have to cling. Clinging is the first sign to something baseless. For, the true feeling neither require clinging nor are a business. They’re just lived without much thought. And you never come to know when you give away an entire lifetime to such invaluable fortunes..

Age.

The thing that happens with us all and we tend to derive least from it… Yes, it’s “Aging”
We all age. Celebrate our birthdays, that another year cuts off our bank of time successfully and in order to welcome the next one with much zeal.. But do we actually think like this?

Think about it!

You celebrate deduction of another year out of that limited bank of lifetime!

According to me, aging is one of those important factors that can actually bring strong worth to our existence. Once a person realises his time is limited, that he gets one step closer to his doom, he’s full of learnings or awakenings that are followed by greatness!

You wake up each day. Let’s assume you are not an atheist, but a believer. You thank God that you are still breathing. That’s where another realisation hits! You always keep an account of the number of breathes that have been lend to you! And in order to fulfill that accountability at its best, you spend your “cash” wisely. You avoid breaking hearts, try to make a mark wherever you go, make people happy and try never to make life bulky with regrets. You actually start living!

Yes, I’m talking about the optimism that can be derived. Else, a pesimist might come up with the thought, “Damn, my time is limited! I’m gonna die someday!”

But then, even that can be addressed. When you are gonna die anyway, why fear death? Instead, make the show worth it and the audience applaude even when you depart the stage and the curtains fall!

You are born, you grow, you go through several experiences, you work, you become weak again, you become old and perish eventually. Okay, we all know this. But isn’t this entire sequence enough to give life a reason and work for it? Isn’t it enough for us to utilise every single bit of our Energies, that are totally restricted to that particular age and tenure, will fly away sooner than we realise?

That’s the beauty of Age. It gives you reason to not waste time and put the vitals at work, to fulfil your longings and spend the life in the name of a worthy purpose. The moment you are at peace, only then it’ll follow around you. And in order to achieve that, quenching the thirst of longings, purposes and bucket lists is very important. (Not harming the lists of the others, please!)

I wondered us all to be Clouds of rainy season. You see, they form at a place, travel all their ways to their respective destinationsto drain.. Some travel farer enough to plains or even hills, some rain in the coastal regions or the seas itself! No matter how far they travel, how many storms they go through, they do get that one opportunity to shine at their best! To make the heads turn..

No matter how dark they may be, they all have that one “Silver lightening” in their lifetime.

That lightening might be missed by many, but the ones who witness it, remember and cherish it forever… They all have to drain and vanish at some or the other point, but it’s all about that One Moment in their lifetime…

We all are better, as we have infinite number of such moments, wake up calls that remind us of our true being! That’s where we need to realise and make the mark we were born for…

Magic lies within, let Age be a factor to seek for it. Though, the game is all about such indefinite number of factors, that surround us, but are yet hiddious…